I have spent the best part of my career pondering life, love and the universe, trying to figure out that eternal question ‘what’s it all about?’ That is, what am I here to do, what is my purpose? What makes me happy, am I happy? What do I want to achieve in life? How do I want to live my life?
I am sure most of us, at some stage have had similar thoughts — as I also understand that some of us have never had these types of thoughts — which begs the question ‘does life just happen to us, or do we play some role in determining the life we lead?’
Choice or no choice?
I am going to work on the proposition that we create the life we lead, we create every drama and every scenario that plays out for us; and this is relevant to both our personal and professional lives. How do we do this? Through choice. Every choice we make is a choice, even when we truly believe we don’t have a choice. The mere notion of not having a choice, IS actually a choice and this sets the scene for whatever is going to happen next. Having said that, no choice is a bad choice. All choices simply provide the path we tread at that given time. If after, we decide we should have, could have done something different or better then that sets the path for making a different choice next time. Where perhaps we fail, is when we keep doing the same thing, keep making the same choices hoping for a different outcome?
The essence of Self?
Life, relationships and leadership all start within. We don’t really understand life, can’t really build sound relationships and certainly aren’t able to lead effectively if don’t have a sense of who we are. That is, what is the essence of me: who am I, what values do I hold, what is important to me, what would I never compromise, what expectations do I have for me, for others – whether that be family, friends or work colleagues? In other words, what do I know about me?
Now, this is the interesting part. How do I know what I believe to know about me is true? What if, I don’t really know that about me, I just think it to be me? And this is the place most of us are at? We have a view of ourselves we believe to be true but most times it is so inextricably entwined with our EGO that we create a false sense of who we are, and this drives the choices we make. We make choices that are designed to protect our EGO, to protect our sense of self. We make choices that potentially limit our ability, limit ourselves.
This is where learning for life fits. It is about creating consciousness and deep understanding of self. For it is only when we truly understand ourselves that we can effectively interact with others in whatever capacity that may be: as child, as parent, as partner, as work colleague, as team member, as leader. Learning about Self is crucial and understanding that Self is complex and made up of many aspects, all which need to be balanced and nourished. Learning this, learning about self, should underpin every other piece of learning that ever takes place.
Well-being and Wellness?
Lifelong Learning with Di Granger operates within a well-being model called the Seven-Dimensions. The Seven-dimensions enables you to explore work-life balance and the mind-body connection, to build depth of understanding that the work and learning we undertake, contributes to the health and wellness of individuals, groups, organisations and communities.
So, what is the answer to life?
Whatever you want it to be. It is all about you. It is knowing that life is full of possibilities and you are full of potential.
What choices are you making now to create the future you want?